Monday, October 22, 2007

burning questions...

is it horribly wrong - when someone you've hooked up with in the past (and with whom you hoped to continue a casual liaison) appears to have taken advantage of an improved mental state and moved on - to feel sort of put out by it?

was watching the unbearable 'tell me you love me' with Roomie the other night; is it true that married women are really stunned that their husbands look at porn? i mean, really. who is stunned that men look at porn?? for that matter, isn't it understood by now that women also look at porn? (or is this a generational thing?)

speaking of TMYLM, how can i scrub the image of jane alexander, naked and having sex on a chair, off my inner eyeballs?

can we please have movies about neurotic people of color now? i mean, i'm getting sort of bored by all the representations of quirky/conflicted white folks in popular culture now. and i don't think the tyler perry movies count.

i guess what i'm asking is: who's the Wes Anderson for brown people? (great critique of wes anderson's work here.)

why is the #66 chicago bus the most crowded motherfrakker ever? hm? and why don't the folks who ride the #66 understand the Move to the Back rule ?

why isn't every parent of daughters reading Packaging Girlhood? i bought it for my sister and it's so good, i think everyone should read it with their daughters. (if i had a daughter we'd be talking about this book.) they even have a website.

3 comments:

Jess said...

Sooooo.....

this seems slightly odd, but I am intrigued by a small part on this blog, especially since we spent nearly an hour discussing it in my feminist thought class the other day....

Women and masturbation/porn:

SO, the general concensus seems to be as of late that it is more of a thing of normalcy in our society today. I however, still find it to be something of rarity, even in the more secular realm. My professor, who is over 40, seems to think it more acceptable/untaboo than most of the people in the class, who are definately majority under 25 even though recent stats show that porn/masturbation for women is pretty common for the same generation that in my class seems to be ignorant to it. Hmmm...

Is this just the lens I've been seeing the world through, or is this really something up and coming that there really is a rise in this in our younger generation? Or is simply that its coming into the light more?

Guess I'm just looking for more views here, since it was such an interesting discussion in class...

ding said...

i can only go by what the market reflects, jess. for women who are offended or grossed out by hardcore testosterone fests, there are more options for satisfying one's ... visual requirements: more movies created by women for women's specific tastes, more discreet avenues of production and distribution and just a little bit more attention paid to the female erotic gaze.

a lot of porn makes me feel icky so it's not high up on my list of things to watch; but i do read erotica - there's a story, a plot, and not everything is about the sex. erotica has been largely consumed by a female audience and i don't think that will change much.

as for masturbation, i'm actually sort of stunned when women say they *don't* do it; i've always thought that was default for us. when i was 10 or 11, my mother told me to explore my body, to know it - know what it feels like, what it reacts to. so...touching myself has always been a part of sexual practice. for a lot of my friends, whether they're in/out of partnerships, this has been so for them, as well.

ubiquitous pidgeon said...

damn, even the packaging girlhood website is pink.